“Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start.”
– Nido Qubein
Time for some major truth about myself. On a daily basis, I struggle; I battle with anxiety and things that come along with it. I don’t feel like I am good enough for my job, friendships or for anything, as a matter of fact.
I am a massive over-thinker. I question my actions on a daily basis and dwell on my mistakes for days.
I want to be a light on others, and make them happy, but this often turns into a battle with myself and I question whether or not I can actually feel light. I feel that I am far too needy for my own good.
These are the things that I battle with daily, the thoughts that run through my head on a regular basis. These are my mountains, and I plan to climb these mountains with my arms wide open, and with nothing holding me back.
Lucky for me, this isn’t who I am. Most of these things are just lies that my mind tricks me into believing.
Turns out, our lowest lows reunite us with our resilience. The bright side of all this is that these struggles are still going to exist. I am still going to doubt and have anxiety, I will still probably dwell on things and second guess almost everything I do.
If you can relate to anything – or everything – that I just said, this is for you!
This is for you on those off-days, those disaster days when you’d rather pull up the covers for no reason at all. This is your two-step process for easing your way into a life that demands to be lived fully, with no guilt whatsoever!
Identify that you are struggling with <insert your problem here>.
In this first step, it’s all about identifying your struggle, without giving up your power to change it. In fact, you’re now fully stepping into your power because you’re present with your problem instead of remaining the victim.
What you are going through doesn’t have to define you, it doesn’t have to consume you and tear you down, even though it might seem strong enough to do so.
The bottom line is, we’re human, meaning we’re all imperfect and we all struggle. No one has it all together. No one has a perfect life, and no one feels happy, confident, and positive all the time.
Rather than hiding your struggles, recognize that struggles make you human and once you start embracing them, you’ll see how powerful you are!
Stop identifying with your struggle.
This is the most important thing to remember, always: you are not always who you think you are.
Every time I feel a spark of hopelessness, I tell myself: You are not your thoughts.
And so it dawned on me that struggles are a temporary experience. It’s much easier to make progress once you accept that having problems doesn’t necessarily mean you are a bad person or that the situation is helpless.
This is easy said but it takes a huge amount of self-awareness, self-care, and self-love to be applied. But once applied, it can move mountains. Mountains of emotional and psychological problems that were beating the hell out of you.
Choose, right now, to actually do that for yourself when you need it the most, no matter how hard or uncomfortable it might get.
Don’t live in your failures, don’t let the rocks in your way stop you and don’t let what you’re going through define you.
You are so much more than how many times you’ve fallen. You’re how many times you’ve got back up.
You can choose to be crushed by the rock and you can become gravel that external circumstances push deeper into the earth, with no control over its own destiny. You can make excuses and pretend that this is your only option.
Or, there is another option. You can become a rock!
You can use it as an example to become a boulder that is strong, unshakeable, and can steamroll anything in its path given the right direction and momentum.
You can use the rock as a stepping stone to reach heights that may have otherwise felt impossible.
Remember, once you hit rock bottom, there is no place else to go but up!
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Studying bachelor’s in biotechnology, Aayushi is a really passionate person, who loves to read and travel. She believes people, places, and stories have the power to change anyone and help them understand the purpose of life.